Wednesday, June 25, 2008

No stay-at-home wife here

I can think of lots of things to write about but one in particular jumps out in my mind tonight. I dated this guy back in 2003 who once told me that I would not be able to handle being a stay-at-home wife. I think I was angry at the implication but then the more I thought about it, the more I agreed with him. He was right (about that...he seemed to think he was right about everything). Anyway, as we are getting to the end of the second week of summer vacation, I think that being a stay-at-home wife just in the summer is a bit much for me. There's no set structure, except that which we create, and I am worried that I am not offering enough exciting educational experiences for my son. But, he's two, and I am pretty sure that he is excited to go outside and play ball, blow bubbles, and slide down the slide at the playground every day. But I can see myself getting bored with that everyday.

But when I think back to when my boyfriend had made that comment, I think he was referring to the fact that I couldn't handle: a) the unorganization that is the joy of having children around, and b) having to get permission to spend money. He was wrong about a. Lukin is the best thing ever. Yeah, he's a kid that sometimes makes messes, but that's part of their carefree, impulsive nature.

But he was right about b. That would pretty much just piss me off to no end. Seeing as I started my professional life being single, it's hard for me to think that people do that. "Can I go buy something?" Eff that. Sometimes, I tease my husband that I have to get "The Sarge's" permission to buy stuff, to which he replies, "Like you would listen anyway." He's right, I would be like, "Don't tell me what to do." And I would go buy whatever it was anyway.

Still, the whole 'being at home' thing has really got me thinking about what it is I want to do in the fall. I will confess that there is a certain appeal in the idea of working full-time, year-around, that I have never experienced. Not that I wouldn't experience it and hate it immediately, but you never know.

I will wrap this up by saying that as I was finishing up grad school there was this guy I knew that told me that once I finished my graduate work, I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I laughed as I said that I would sleep. But that guy had incredible insight because he could see that I wouldn't deal well with little or nothing to do. I still don't. Hmmph. I bet that guy has his Ph. D. and is making a lot of money with that insight now.

1 comment:

A. Rae said...

People say that all the time, that whole "If you didn't work, you'd get bored" song-and-dance. For some that is true. I think that is true for you, only because I know you are a creature of routine and strategic planning that even the military would envy.

Speaking for my OWN self, though, I'd like to not work (i.e. work at a structured grunt job much like the one I have now, that is in a profession I did not ever want to be a part of). Instead, I'd like to do my own thing, which I suppose would be work, but not "work" as I now know it.

People may just not have enough hobbies.