Dedicated to Greg Anderson

This entry is dedicated to New Year's Eve, and it's events and of course, as the title suggests, Greg Anderson.

I went to the airport about 4:30 on Sunday to pick up Sonny who was supposed to be arriving about 4:45. Turns out, his flight hadn't even taken off yet when I got to the airport. So I sat there and did puzzles in my book for a while and waited for him. I had a good feeling that he was going to be on the flight, because if he wasn't, he would have called me to let me know. And seeing as it was our anniversary and all, I didn't care what time he got there, just that he got there.

Well, he got there around 6-ish. So we went and checked into the Hilton and then went to eat supper. We decided that since it was getting later, we shouldn't try to go anywhere where we might have to wait for a long time so we decided to go to Speedway. It was really good, and fast, and we didn't even have to wait. I had smothered chicken and Sonny ordered stuffed shrimp and we shared. It was so good. It was a very nice anniversary dinner.

Then we went over to Amanda's aunt's house to pick her up before heading over to 'Dagwoods' (Overtime) for the evening. They were having this all you can drink taps and bar pours for $10 from 8-11. That was pretty sweet. So we all did that.

Enter Greg Anderson.

Greg Anderson got there shortly after we did and, overall, we had a pretty good time. Don't get me wrong, I love Greg Anderson, but as I suppose any spouse's friend would do, he really knows how to push my buttons. Here's the story.

So we got talking about the Christmas card that we had gotten from Annalissa. Now, I don't have a whole lot against Annalissa, except that she made it so that Sonny was too scared to have a relationship with me because he had been burned before. This in itself really pisses me off, but I digress.

Anyway, so we are talking about where Sonny put Annalissa's Christmas card that we got. (He put it at the top of all the others. He did this because there was open room there and for no other reason, but I joked him that it was otherwise.)

Now, in telling Greg about this, Greg got upset. Now Greg if I remember this differently than you do, please let me know. He didn't think that it was right that I should get to be friends with my exes but that it was okay for me to get mad at Sonny for putting a Christmas card from Annalissa at the top of all displayed cards. He also doesn't think it's right that I should get to stay in contact with my exes and even get to spend time with exes but Sonny is not allowed to do so. Greg says this is a Catch-22 of sorts. (not his words, mine).

Anyway, the more he would try to make this point to me, the madder I was getting. Greg just didn't get it. I was able to be friends with my exes because they hadn't hurt me in such a way that I wasn't able to move on to other relationships because of them. I knew, and know, that Sonny was very hurt by her and that pisses me off for multiple reasons.

I was trying to explain this to Amanda (who already knows all of this) but I was saying that my exes didn't make me afraid of relationships, and his did. His ex, unbeknownst to her, jeapardized our relationship because it made him afraid to be involved.

I know that Sonny loves me and that he doesn't love her (in that way, if at all, anymore). I also hope he knows that I love him and that while I may love other friends, even those who were exes of mine, that doesn't make them more important to me. He is my husband and I love him. It just makes me mad that going out to eat with an ex (who happens to be dating my friend with which the dinner plans were made) or talking to an ex (while at a game with my husband) is not okay because Sonny can't just up and go see his ex whenever he wants. Well, I guess I didn't know that was something he wanted. It's strange that Greg is more worked up about this than my own husband seems to be. Perhaps it's because Sonny knows I love him. Perhaps its because Sonny knows how much this ex, that Greg doesn't like me talking to, irritated me when we tried to date. Perhaps Sonny really doesn't want to spend time with, or have contact with, his ex.

I guess the bottom line is that it all comes down to principle. I understand where Greg is coming from in terms of principle. It's just that with circumstances as they are, the situations are not exactly equal. But what do I know? That's just my side of the story.