Monday, October 30, 2006

Six Degrees of Disabilities

So today when I was driving back from Shannon Park, I realized that life with my sister was not that bad. I'm not saying that it was ever bad but people tend to view disabilities differently. I was thinking about how there are those who are physically disabled, like my sister was and then there are those students with ADHD. Those are the students that I work with that at the end of the day, I am so happy that they go home and I don't have to deal with them. Heck, I am happy when my 30 minutes with those students is over. I feel bad for the parents/guardians who have to tend to them all evening.

Living with Stephanie was the way it was. I didn't really grow up without her so I can't compare it to that. But I think that it was pretty easy because Stephanie was really laid back and she didn't complain and she didn't bounce around like Hammie in Over the Hedge. She was just 'normal' to us. But there are those people who would say that those with ADHD are more 'normal'. They would say in order to have a meaningful existence, you must be 'normal'. Whatever that is.

I guess both of these disabilities have their level of drain on those around them. Those with ADHD may be able to be mobile but may mentally exhaust you, whereas someone with a physical disability may be physically draining on a person. It just makes you think, which would want to have as part of your life daily: mental wear and tear or physical wear and tear. Putting it that way doesn't give me the results I would want to say. I just think one couldn't deal with the mental exhaustion as well. I know I couldn't, but I'm just one person, and I have just one opinion to share.

Sunday, October 29, 2006

Can't Get Enough...

I love the picture of little man from the entry below this one. The one where he is on his tummy. He is so freaking cute!!

I had many profound things that I wanted to say but now I cant figure out what they were for the life of me.

I was under the weather this weekend. I came home from dinner with Lukin and my mother-in-law on Friday night with a headache, a sore throat and was aching all over. I also was sooooo cold. It wasn't good.

So because I wasn't feeling good, I snapped at Lukin once that evening because I felt so crappy and Sonny was at work until 11:00. I was getting frustrated with how he was so tired but wouldn't just settle and go to sleep. So I said, "Little Man, You need to go to sleep!" He just looked at me, probably surprised by the volume of my voice. I waited a few seconds for him to start crying because I said that and then I was the one who started crying because I felt bad for getting frustrated with him. He doesn't know that mommy doesn't feel well. He doesn't even know what 'doesn't feel well' means. So that's why I felt so bad. I know, I know, "worst mother ever."

Saturday we went to the UND vs. Mankato hockey game. It was fun. Then we went to Mystic Lake Casino. That was pretty fun too. I got to sleep for most of the day. That was really nice. I feel better now because of it.

Today we did a bunch of stuff out and about. We went and bought groceries and other misc. stuff that we needed at Target. We went to Baby Depot and bought Lukin a car seat cover thing so he doesn't have to wear a bulky coat. And then we went to Best Buy to price a flat screen monitor. We stopped at Walgreens so we could get some Halloween candy since they seemed to be lacking at Target and we stopped at Kohl's to get some thicker socks for Lukin. Of course, this is in no particular order. We also went to El Loro for Lunch and Byerly's for dinner.

So I have about 4 more nights before my friends are coming for girl's weekend and I still don't have this place unpacked. I hope they don't mind because I am not gonna have a whole lot of time to work with anyway. We are going to the Vikes game tomorrow and then on Tuesday, Lukin and I will be handing out candy to the little ones. So we will have Wednesday evening and whatever time on Thursday after I come home from Conferences. It should be a fun week. I hope they don't mind a mess.

Well, better go do more stuff.

Thursday, October 26, 2006

Guess who's back? Back again? Me and L-man




Rock'n'Roll. I am back. I am composing this my first blog entry from Eagan, MN. Wow. It's weird how we have this set up. It's like there is nothing to look at while you are at the computer. Oh well, it's probably just as well because with a wee one, it's not like we are gonna spend a lot of time on the computer anymore anyway.

So the days are ticking away until Girl's weekend. I am still not unpacked. But my husband decided that we are not going to go anywhere fantastic this weekend. We are going to go to the hockey game in Mankato and then hit a casino. That would be fun and, I am guessing, a whole lot less exhausting.

Today, we had to stay an extra two hours after school to get ready for conferences. That was fun. 44 students and 26 time slots. That and I am not going to be present for all 26, more like 8 time slots because I am not at that building full time. It makes me tired and/or my head spin just to think about it.

Yesterday after school, Stephanee and I were talking about the set up for speech people and how I had that dream about my base school getting ripped off. She said that people think of that building as a program and not a fully functioning school...but that's a whole other rant.

It just got me to thinking. I enjoy that building, and those co-workers. And that just scares me. I really liked the building that I worked in last year. Or rather, I liked the staff I worked with last year. Well, I liked them all last year. However, by the end of the year, I was jaded and felt somewhat betrayed by a couple of them. Granted there is still a pretty good handful of people that I still keep in touch with, albeit, not very frequently, because they are great. But the others, not so much.

I mean that whole ending situation last year just made me really sad. And I had to wonder where it came from. Who at the building was so miserable that they decided to go after my job? Whoever it was, sucks.

Anyway, I digress. I better wrap this up because I need to print out my schedule for conferences before I go to bed. But, I will leave you with some pictures of the L-Man from last weekend when we went home.

Have a great weekend.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

A need for rewording

So last night, I was telling Sonny about my entry for yesterday, and he said, "Did you have to say 'reconnect'? It makes it sound like you don't like me." I attempted to reassure him that most of the people who read this are moms and they understand what I meant. In case you thought what Sonny thought, I want to clarify.

I assumed that most of the readers would understand that I meant that because we have a baby we don't get to be a couple very much any more. This is a common thing that happens when people have a child. The child becomes the center of the universe and their time that they used to spend together is now consumed by diaper changes, touch and feel books, and feedings. When I said that I wanted to get away to reconnect with him, I meant, I wanted to go away, just the two of us, for some 'us' time. I hope that resolves any confusion. :)

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

A BIT OF A MOUTHFUL

SO NOW I AM DRAINED AND SNACKING ON MY BAKED LAYS FROM LUNCH AT PANERA DURING YESTERDAY'S WORKSHOPS.

YESTERDAY, MY HUSBAND TOLD ME THAT HE GOT A PHONE CALL FROM ONE OF HIS FRIENDS ASKING WHY HE (MY HUSBAND) LETS ME WRITE THE THINGS I DO IN HERE. MY HUSBAND IS PRETTY LAID BACK AND TOOK THE COMMENT IN STRIDE. HE BASICALLY SAID THAT THERE ISN'T ANYTHING HE COULD DO TO GET ME TO NOT WRITE WHAT I WRITE. BESIDES, HE THEN TOLD HIS FRIEND THAT HE DOESN'T TEND TO READ MY BLOG BECAUSE HE LIVES IT.

I DON'T THINK THAT WHAT I WRITE IS OFFENSIVE. I THINK IT'S MY TRUTH. IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, DON'T READ. I PERSONALLY DON'T FEEL THAT IT IS UNACCEPTABLE TO MENTION LUKIN'S REAL BIRTHDAY. IT'S NOT LIKE PEOPLE DIDN'T KNOW WHEN HE WAS DUE AND COULDN'T DO THE MATH IF THEY REALLY WANTED TO. SERIOUSLY.

BUT THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THAT. JUST LIKE SONNY CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO WRITE IN HERE, I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT HIS FRIENDS NOT APPROVING OF WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.

LAST NIGHT I HAD TO TRY TO PUT THE BOY TO BED THREE TIMES. EACH TIME I WAS UNSUCCESSFUL. SERIOUSLY. I WANTED HIM TO GO TO SLEEP SO THAT I COULD LAY HIM DOWN AND CUT HIS NAILS. SO WE WOULD ROCK-A-BYE AND THEN WHEN HE WAS ASLEEP, I WOULD LAY HIM ON THE FLOOR ON HIS BLANKEY SO THAT I COULD CLIP HIS NAILS. THE MINUTE, NAY, THE SECOND I LAID HIM DOWN, HE WOULD START TO WAIL. KID. I WANT YOU TO SLEEP SO I CAN CUT YOUR CLAWS BEFORE YOU REALLY DO SCRATCH YOUR EYES OUT. LONG STORY A LITTLE SHORTER: HE DIDN'T GET HIS NAILS CUT.

SO I GUESS THAT I LIED ABOUT GETTING PICTURES OF LUKIN ON HERE TODAY. I CAN'T REALLY DO IT UNTIL I HAVE INTERNET ACCESS AT HOME. I HOPE THAT WE HAVE IT SOON BECAUSE I'M GETTING SERIOUSLY ANNOYED WITH THIS SETUP.

MY HUSBAND DOESN'T WORK ON SATURDAY OR SUNDAY (READ FRIDAY AND SATURDAY FOR THOSE OF US WHO DON'T TEND TO GET UP AT 2 AM). SO I AM TRYING TO GET HIM TO GO DO SOMETHING WITH ME. I FEEL LIKE A HORRIBLE PARENT SAYING THAT I WANT TO GET AWAY, BUT I DO. I NEED A LITTLE BREATHER, A LITTLE ESCAPE WITH MY HUSBAND TO REGROUP AND RECONNECT SO THAT I CAN REFUEL TO KEEP GOING UNTIL AT LEAST THANKSGIVING. THE ONLY PROBLEM WITH THE WHOLE WANTING TO GET AWAY THING IS THAT THE WEEKEND AFTER IS GIRLS WEEKEND. THAT IN ITSELF, IS NOT PROBLEMATIC. HOWEVER, THE FACT THAT I AM GETTING COMPANY NEXT WEEK AND STILL HAVE A TOWNHOUSE IN BOXES IS NOT GOOD.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME ANYWAY? NOW THAT I THINK ABOUT IT, WE HAVE LIVED THERE ALMOST A MONTH AND I STILL DON'T HAVE EVERYTHING UNPACKED. NOW I FEEL REALLY GUILTY ABOUT WANTING TO DO SOMETHING FUN THIS WEEKEND. MY POOR HUSBAND HAS TO LIVE IN MY MESS. NOT ONLY DO I NOT COOK AND CLEAN FOR HIM, I DON'T UNPACK EITHER.

TODAY IT WAS LIKE CHRISTMAS AT WORK. I GOT A HALLOWEEN TEDDY BEAR FROM A PSA AT SHANNON PARK FOR LUKIN. THEN WHEN I CAME BACK FROM SP, OUR COMPUTER PERSON CAME IN AND GAVE ME TWO CHEERIO SNACK THINGS FOR WHEN LUKIN IS OLD ENOUGH TO HAVE SNACKIES.

WELL, THAT'S ABOUT ALL I GOT FOR NOW. BETTER FINISH UP WHAT I WAS DOING SO I CAN GO HOME.

Hungry

ALL CAPS AGAIN TODAY BECAUSE I STILL DON'T HAVE INTERNET AT MY PLACE. I AM HOPING THAT THIS ISSUE WILL BE RESOLVED BY THE TIME I COME HOME FROM WORK TODAY. HOWEVER, IN CASE THAT IS NOT THE CASE, I WILL WRITE THIS NOW. I SHOULD GO PUMP, AND THEN RANT AWAY. MOSTLY BECAUSE I AM HUNGRY AND I WON'T LET MYSELF HAVE A SNACK UNTIL I PUMP. SO I SHALL RETURN.

Monday, October 23, 2006

MY LONG WEEKEND

ALRIGHT, SO I AM DOING THIS IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THE FONT BIGGER WHILE I AM CHECKING THIS ON A MAC. SO IF YOU HAVE ANY HELPFUL HINTS, PLEASE LET ME KNOW. HOWEVER, I AM HOPING THAT MAKING IT ALL CAPS, SOMEONE WILL BE ABLE TO READ IT. :)

OKAY, SO WHAT HAVE I BEEN UP TO? WELL WE HAD A LONG WEEKEND AND LITTLE MAN AND I WENT UP TO CAVALIER. WE PACKED WEDNESDAY AFTER SCHOOL AND TOOK THE 10:00 FLIGHT TO GRAND FORKS. WE STAYED OVERNIGHT WITH AMANDA AND THEN DAD AND STACIE CAME TO GET US ON THURSDAY AFTER STACIE GOT DONE WITH WORK.

FRIDAY WAS PRETTY UNEVENTFUL. IT WAS MY SLOTHFUL DAY FOR THE WEEKEND. LUKIN AND I JUST SLEPT A LOT AND HE ATE WHEN HE WAS HUNGRY AND I ATE BECAUSE I LIKE TO EAT.

SATURDAY, LUKIN, MOM, STACIE AND I WENT SHOPPING. I HAD TO LET LUKIN TOUCH EVERYTHING THAT WAS SOFT SO HE WOULDN'T BE CRABBY. THEN HE FELL ASLEEP, AND THEN I COULD JUST SHOP AND NOT WORRY ABOUT BAD BABY.

SPEAKING OF BAD BABY, I WILL HAVE NEW PICTURES ON HERE TOMORROW OR AFTER MY NEXT BLOG BECAUSE I TOOK A TON THIS WEEKEND AND NOW EVERYONE WANTS COPIES AND I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU, MY FAITHFUL READERS, SHOULD NOT GET TO SEE MY BOY TOO.

SUNDAY WE CAME HOME. I ALWAYS FEEL SAD FOR MY PARENTS BECAUSE THEY LOVE LITTLE MAN SO MUCH AND IT JUST BREAKS THEIR HEART WHEN WE HAVE TO COME HOME. MY MOM ALWAYS BUYS LOTTERY TICKETS WHEN WE GO UP THERE SO THAT IF SHE WINS, WE CAN ALL STAY TOGETHER AND ALL BE IN THE SAME PLACE.

SO THAT'S A BREAKDOWN OF MY WEEKEND.

TO THE LADIES THAT I WORKED WITH LAST YEAR: WHEN ARE WE GONNA HAVE ANOTHER GET TOGETHER? I AM GAME. AFTER A RECENT WEEKEND HOME, I REALIZED THAT I NEED MORE LAUGHTER AND YOU LADIES WERE GOOD ABOUT MAKING ME LAUGH WHEN I NEEDED TO LAST YEAR.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!

Monday, October 16, 2006

Cordially invited to my bathroom...

Okay, so I think I worked pretty hard this weekend, but all that I feel like I got accomplished was cleaning my bathroom. I cleaned it from top to bottom, and unpacked it all. It looks fantastic. It's kind of a cross between my bathroom in Jamestown and the one at West Ridge.

Lukin was a monster yesterday. I am not exactly sure who cried more: me or him. I couldn't figure out what to do to get him to stop crying. He needed to take a nap but he didn't feel compelled to sleep between 8:30 am and 8:45 pm. He did doze off for about 15 minutes during two different times during the day. But as you can probably figure, that's not nearly enough time to make a difference when he's 5 months old. That wasn't even enough time for me to catch my breath. I'm not even kidding that he cried most of the day. The best I could figure was that it was one of the following: A. Overly tired, B. Teething, C. Tummy hurt from not having a BM since Thursday or Friday (I can't remember), or D. All of the above. I would go with D. But who knows? I was joking to my husband that Lukin would probably be an angel for his parents today because he was so naughty yesterday. He's probably wore out.

Side note: I am sure that Lukin would appreciate me talking about his BMs if he were older.

It's nearly 4:30 and I am not the last one here. That's impressive. I will wrap this up and see if I can not be the last one today. That would be a nice change of pace. Although, since I need to finish up goals for 4 IEPs by tomorrow, I think I will have to have some homework tonight. Fun for me.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Three days my ass...

Okay, so I know it has been more than the three days that I said it would take for me to get back into my blog. However, we were busy last week with UND's homecoming and we are still knee deep in boxes (okay, they are all my boxes or Lukin's, but whatever.)

So what have we missed out on? Well, I had a birthday last week. Yay. Now that I have a kid, birthdays are still fun to have but they are not as much fun. It's like yay, we get to go out for supper, but we can't get lit up because we are taking the in-laws and the baby. Great. I'm just saying. It's not that I don't love my in-laws and we know I love my son, but seriously.

Then the weekend up in Grand Forks was awesome! It made me realize something. There are different versions of me. There's the me that was up in Grand Forks this past weekend who is lots of fun and laughs more than anywhere else. Then there is the me that lives here and is serious and doesn't have a really close friend that I can share everything with. And if I did, I don't see them anymore. (Read: I miss the ladies I worked with last year.)

Oh yeah, the move went smoothly. Or so I was told, since I was at work. I think that was pretty slick. My husband probably appreciated that my bossiness wasn't around. Nice.

This week has just been overwhelming. I have never moved to a new place with a son and husband. I feel all this pressure to get everything unpacked and put away and at the same time I have to spend time with my son and husband. My husband says that I don't need to worry about getting everything taken care of yet but it's hard not to feel bad that his stuff has been unpacked for days and mine hasn't.

Meanwhile, my husband and son went to a lutefisk feed tonight. I get to stay home because maybe I will get some stuff done while they are gone. But I am not getting a whole lot done while sitting at work still. Can you even believe that I have access to this from work?!? That's awesome.

Well, better get out of here. I don't think they went so I could sit at work all night, even though I have plenty to do here too.